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Diwakar is a self-made person. Graduated from the prestigious IISc Bangalore, he completed his internships from DRDO, BARC and has worked for his project – All Terrain Vehicle. Today he has a job to attend and is also running his own startup - YourMech.in

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I am not a passionate writer but some life experiences do teach you so many new things. Those make us a writer, driven by the need to document them and thus, letting go of the grudges you may have towards life.

A life changing incident happened recently. I was in a serious relationship for last 5 years with a girl who was as important to me as were my parents. I come from a very normal middle class family who has seen many up’s and down’s. My parents, like all parents, devoted their everything to make me self sufficient and self dependent. I am not a rich spoiled brat.

 

Part 1

I believe in making my own destiny and my own kingdom. I am a self-made person who didn’t get anything except love, care and support from my parents. People who know me personally have seen me growing. I had been good in my studies as one thing always got stuck in my mind that I need to do something for my parents. So when you learn well, you earn well. I had been getting above 90% in my 10th, 12th and college. It did give me new experiences of life as I got selected in prestigious IISc Bangalore , DRDO , BARC for my internships and my project – All Terrain Vehicle. Today I am in my professional life with a decent job or I can say a 9-6 routine for 5 days a week. Also I am running my own startup – YourMech.in
This was a very brief intro about me; I hope I was able to show a brief picture.
Meanwhile, between all this stuff, I had met a girl in my second year who was weak, frail and dejected to enter the college life as she was suffering a bad past. She dropped a year after high school for becoming a doctor. We became friends and shared everything one person does with another if you start liking each other’s company. She started liking me and I found someone with whom I could share my feelings as she would listen peacefully like it was her story. With time we had developed a blind trust on each other and love started developing. But I was very reluctant to enter in any relationship as those responsibilities which I had, made me feel that all this will distract me. But 6 months of reluctance at the end wasn’t strong in front of the love I had developed for her. It was 29th Nov. 2013 when we entered into serious relationship by promising each other that we will be a different couple who will achieve our dreams together by helping each other. We will grow with our love getting stronger each day. Like every relationship it had all ups and downs but it was a great experience all together. Our parents too had accepted us happily as we were of same caste and one of my relative was a link between our families.
I did achieve what all I had dreamt with her. A gold medal in engineering, some of the great internships, a good job, a car and few other things which I really can’t name. Even she became a more confident girl, more close to her family, a gold medal in engineering, entering into MBA.
Everything was settled in our case. We loved each other, we had seen our tough times together and how we both supported each other throughout, the dreams we had built together, the moments we wanted to live together in future and those small memories in a vast space of 5 years. I really can’t write everything in that detail right now as she has already left me and remembering all those things make me weak as a person.
We had spent 5 years together facing each other’s emotions, pains, struggle, frustration, love, anger, fights, issues.
I did cherish all these feelings, because I loved her and considered her the best I could get as she was worth living with together for the whole life. She had seen me growing with time and facing those hardships. My family had already accepted her with open arms and so did her family. It was a smooth track for us and many people did envy that and got jealous. We looked great together.

 

Part 2

Few weeks back, her parents went to a priest to get our horoscopes matched and that was the turning point of our relationship. Everything was destroyed after that. According to the priest this marriage was not possible, as our horoscope’s didn’t match! Some or the other kind of mismatch was dug out from the strange lines on paper, which they said would lead to an unhappy married life leading to health issues for both of us, specifically me, with late or no kids at all.
With such feedback my family too went to different priests for another opinion, but all said same things in different ways. So, now I had lost her permanently. Her family changed their minds suddenly. The family which had taken my finger measurement for ring didn’t want to see my face now as if it was my fault that our horoscope didn’t match.
The thing which still hurts me is that the girl with whom I had spent last 5 years together wasn’t even willing to be with me. She was too weak to even say that our love is strong enough to deal all odds that came in our lives. One thing just got stuck in her mind that if anything wrong happened to me in future, after marriage, than she won’t be able to forgive herself.
But for me, I never saw any future without her.
I don’t know how suddenly people change their faces, how one can say that “my daughter is strong, you too forget and move on” or that “We can’t spoil the next 50 years on the basis of last 5 years.”

“Stop disturbing my daughter. We don’t want to meet you anymore.” I was told. It hurt so much; I really can’t describe. The family which was so loving suddenly changed their thoughts about me.
I tried to convince my family that my love was strong enough to deal all the problems which will come in our way and will find some or the other solutions to stay together. Over this my family at least supported me and called her family, but they had already decided that this marriage wasn’t possible now as they can’t take the risk. They complained that I was not letting their daughter get over all this by trying to call her or wanting to meet her. Her parent’s didn’t even let me see her face for the last time as it would make her weak and the next groom won’t be able to accept that or the new family they were planning for her might get some or the other information about this!
The girl for whom I selflessly did many things in my last 5 years, be it taking her to her convocation, or to help her and her mother meet their ailing grandfather in hospital, or to support her in any kind of problems she faced, today said “no” so easily and moved on, as if the things we did and shared were fake and in one click it gets deleted for ever.

It was so shocking for me. I have no words left to say.

I have a advice for the new generation. You are lucky if you get true love. If you get together and it runs this long, don’t spoil it over frivolous issues. Respect yourselves and others. In my case I had everything in my favor but the girl herself was too weak to have confidence in self and take charge of life beyond the future-reading of some priests no one has ever known. I even don’t know how she and her family changed their face completely after this and threw me off like a rat who was caged with them for years.
Some stories are written in heaven, as this was. We met as god made us meet, we grew together, we loved each other, we fought, we solved, we cared, we wanted to live together forever, but our horoscopes and families came between us, and this relationship died.

She and her family blocked me from everywhere as if they were robots pretending to be humans with no emotions attached. I don’t know how she is today, how happy she would be tomorrow, how would her new husband be with whom she would have babies and whether these all would make her parents proud and happy!

It’s true, that no matter whether you are happy or sad but people who show courage, God does help them.
People who run away from the problems can never handle any situations. All marriages whether love, arranged, or 100% matched can never tell you whether it will work or not.
God created Adam and Eve, but if they had got stuck into their future predictions than this earth won’t have reached till here.

What should I do with all those memories she left me with? Those 2000 plus photos, and 500 plus gifts? Will I be able to love anyone else? Will I be able to now marry someone else? Can I trust anyone else ever?

I am not a passionate writer but some life experiences do teach you so many new things. Those make us a writer, driven by the need to document them and thus, letting go of the grudges you may have towards life.

A life changing incident happened recently. I was in a serious relationship for last 5 years with a girl who was as important to me as were my parents. I come from a very normal middle class family who has seen many up’s and down’s. My parents, like all parents, devoted their everything to make me self sufficient and self dependent. I am not a rich spoiled brat.

I believe in making my own destiny and my own kingdom. I am a self-made person who didn’t get anything except love, care and support from my parents. People who know me personally have seen me growing. I had been good in my studies as one thing always got stuck in my mind that I need to do something for my parents. So when you learn well, you earn well. I had been getting above 90% in my 10th, 12th and college. It did give me new experiences of life as I got selected in prestigious IISc Bangalore , DRDO , BARC for my internships and my project – All Terrain Vehicle. Today I am in my professional life with a decent job or I can say a 9-6 routine for 5 days a week. Also I am running my own startup – YourMech.in
This was a very brief intro about me; I hope I was able to show a brief picture.
Meanwhile, between all this stuff, I had met a girl in my second year who was weak, frail and dejected to enter the college life as she was suffering a bad past. She dropped a year after high school for becoming a doctor. We became friends and shared everything one person does with another if you start liking each other’s company. She started liking me and I found someone with whom I could share my feelings as she would listen peacefully like it was her story. With time we had developed a blind trust on each other and love started developing. But I was very reluctant to enter in any relationship as those responsibilities which I had, made me feel that all this will distract me. But 6 months of reluctance at the end wasn’t strong in front of the love I had developed for her. It was 29th Nov. 2013 when we entered into serious relationship by promising each other that we will be a different couple who will achieve our dreams together by helping each other. We will grow with our love getting stronger each day. Like every relationship it had all ups and downs but it was a great experience all together. Our parents too had accepted us happily as we were of same caste and one of my relative was a link between our families.
I did achieve what all I had dreamt with her. A gold medal in engineering, some of the great internships, a good job, a car and few other things which I really can’t name. Even she became a more confident girl, more close to her family, a gold medal in engineering, entering into MBA.
Everything was settled in our case. We loved each other, we had seen our tough times together and how we both supported each other throughout, the dreams we had built together, the moments we wanted to live together in future and those small memories in a vast space of 5 years. I really can’t write everything in that detail right now as she has already left me and remembering all those things make me weak as a person.
We had spent 5 years together facing each other’s emotions, pains, struggle, frustration, love, anger, fights, issues.
I did cherish all these feelings, because I loved her and considered her the best I could get as she was worth living with together for the whole life. She had seen me growing with time and facing those hardships. My family had already accepted her with open arms and so did her family. It was a smooth track for us and many people did envy that and got jealous. We looked great together.

To Be Continued in Part 2….

Few weeks back, her parents went to a priest to get our horoscopes matched and that was the turning point of our relationship. Everything was destroyed after that. According to the priest this marriage was not possible, as our horoscope’s didn’t match! Some or the other kind of mismatch was dug out from the strange lines on paper, which they said would lead to an unhappy married life leading to health issues for both of us, specifically me, with late or no kids at all.
With such feedback my family too went to different priests for another opinion, but all said same things in different ways. So, now I had lost her permanently. Her family changed their minds suddenly. The family which had taken my finger measurement for ring didn’t want to see my face now as if it was my fault that our horoscope didn’t match.
The thing which still hurts me is that the girl with whom I had spent last 5 years together wasn’t even willing to be with me. She was too weak to even say that our love is strong enough to deal all odds that came in our lives. One thing just got stuck in her mind that if anything wrong happened to me in future, after marriage, than she won’t be able to forgive herself.
But for me, I never saw any future without her.
I don’t know how suddenly people change their faces, how one can say that “my daughter is strong, you too forget and move on” or that “We can’t spoil the next 50 years on the basis of last 5 years.”

“Stop disturbing my daughter. We don’t want to meet you anymore.” I was told. It hurt so much; I really can’t describe. The family which was so loving suddenly changed their thoughts about me.
I tried to convince my family that my love was strong enough to deal all the problems which will come in our way and will find some or the other solutions to stay together. Over this my family at least supported me and called her family, but they had already decided that this marriage wasn’t possible now as they can’t take the risk. They complained that I was not letting their daughter get over all this by trying to call her or wanting to meet her. Her parent’s didn’t even let me see her face for the last time as it would make her weak and the next groom won’t be able to accept that or the new family they were planning for her might get some or the other information about this!
The girl for whom I selflessly did many things in my last 5 years, be it taking her to her convocation, or to help her and her mother meet their ailing grandfather in hospital, or to support her in any kind of problems she faced, today said “no” so easily and moved on, as if the things we did and shared were fake and in one click it gets deleted for ever.

It was so shocking for me. I have no words left to say.

I have a advice for the new generation. You are lucky if you get true love. If you get together and it runs this long, don’t spoil it over frivolous issues. Respect yourselves and others. In my case I had everything in my favor but the girl herself was too weak to have confidence in self and take charge of life beyond the future-reading of some priests no one has ever known. I even don’t know how she and her family changed their face completely after this and threw me off like a rat who was caged with them for years.
Some stories are written in heaven, as this was. We met as god made us meet, we grew together, we loved each other, we fought, we solved, we cared, we wanted to live together forever, but our horoscopes and families came between us, and this relationship died.

She and her family blocked me from everywhere as if they were robots pretending to be humans with no emotions attached. I don’t know how she is today, how happy she would be tomorrow, how would her new husband be with whom she would have babies and whether these all would make her parents proud and happy!

It’s true, that no matter whether you are happy or sad but people who show courage, God does help them.
People who run away from the problems can never handle any situations. All marriages whether love, arranged, or 100% matched can never tell you whether it will work or not.
God created Adam and Eve, but if they had got stuck into their future predictions than this earth won’t have reached till here.

What should I do with all those memories she left me with? Those 2000 plus photos, and 500 plus gifts? Will I be able to love anyone else? Will I be able to now marry someone else? Can I trust anyone else ever?

The End

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